EFT

Emotional Freedom in Minutes with EFT

Remove emotional pain quickly – with a technique you can do yourself, one that you can learn in just minutes!

With skilled guidance, you can not only remove emotional pain quickly, but also remove physical pain quickly.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is one of the new Energy Therapies that Susan Quinn employs at her Los Angeles office. It’s short-term therapy, with clients reporting almost instant improvement. Some report full recovery from emotional and physical pain.  EFT is also helpful for removing the cravings of addictions such as alcohol and drugs.

Once she began exploring the new Power Therapies 15 years ago , Susan Quinn has been integrating EFT with EMDR and uses this combinations with children, adolescents and even with couples.

Works with Families and Children

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“I teach EFT to all my clients, even children,” says Susan Quinn, “because I think it’s a wonderful tool for managing anxiety and other emotions.The most amazing thing about EFT is that even in times when unexpected emotions arise, such as fear or anxiety, a person has a toolbox to use and knows how to reduce their fear.” 

It doesn’t matter whether your goal is to remove emotional pain quickly or remove physical pain quickly. The short-term therapy of EFT can bring relief from phobias, depression, grief, rape, natural disasters, crime, childhood sexual abuse, post traumatic stress and more.

Although Power Therapy methods differ in emphasis and approach, all work by interrupting old habits and reflexes that were established around the painful incidents.

“The beliefs that have the most power are unconscious, so they have to be carefully teased out,” Susan Quinn says. “But these techniques provide tangible relief from the time they’re tried for most people.”

What is EFT?

EFT tapping, or Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) belong to a family of therapies that offer clinically effective alternatives to traditional, long-term treatments. These Power therapies usually require 6 to 12 sessions to relieve symptoms and the results are usually permanent.

Each short-term therapy can remove emotional pain quickly, remove physical pain quickly, and provide noticeable relief from negative emotions and trauma by rewiring neural pathways in the brain.

The painful reactions are replaced with non-distressful, more appropriate responses. The client almost immediately experiences a reduction in intensity of the distress.

These methods work by triggering sub-cortical activity below the level of conscious control (in the amygdala and hipocampus). The intensity of emotional responses are also reduced. A body of documented scientific studies prove the benefits are real.Fortunately, a person doesn’t have to believe in these techniques for them to work.

How to Do EFT

Emotional Freedom Therapy was developed by Gary Craig, who simplified Roger Callahan’s revolutionary Thought Field Therapy (TFT). A TFT therapist followscomplex tapping sequences (protocols) for numerous symptoms. By contrast, EFT taps on the same meridian points on the face and body for every problem.

EFT Tapping

EFT Tapping

EFT  tapping works directly on the energy points (meridian system) of the body. Like acupuncture, relief comes in part from stimulating the meridians. But instead of needles, the person’s meridians are tapped with the fingers. Whether EFT is performed by a therapist or self-applied, over 80% of people achieve either noticeable improvement or complete cessation of the problem.

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Empty Nest Syndrome and Depression

Empty Nest Syndrome Is More Common Today


Empty nest syndrome is a time when children leave the home and couples are particularly vulnerable to marital problems and divorce at this time. The structure that has held the family together is now compromised or gone. This is like a bridge that develops cracks and becomes unstable and eventually collapses.

Depression is part of Empty Nest Syndrome

The family system can also collapse if the cracks in the bridge (structure) are not repaired and rebuilt.

This is not a surprising consequence when more and more in the last 10 or 12 years couples are focusing all their energy on the children’s activities to the detriment of their own couple relationship.

This causes resentment and resentment erodes the good feelings in the marriage.

Empty Nest Syndrome

I encourage couples going through empty nest syndrome to get couples coaching or therapy at the first sign of feeling resentment toward their partner to repair the imtimacy in the relationship. If this is caught in time before it gets too far along the intimacy can be reignited, otherwise this situation becomes a breeding ground for affairs and divorce.

There is hope for a good outcome in spite of these changes.  You can create a dynamic relationship Right Now! 

This is the time to explore what you want your relationship and your life to be right now.  With honesty, soul searching and good communication you can create a fulfilling relationship full of connection and intimacy.

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6 easy ways to outsmart holiday depression

Thanksgiving is  upon us again and therefore Thanksgiving Depression which is part of holiday depression.


For most of us, the holidays are not as joyful as they are touted to be.  There are many reasons for this.  Many people compare the holiday today to happier ones in the past.  Comparisons are not useful because things are always changing. We need to be in the present to enjoy life.

Many people are alone or have lost loved ones with whom they previously enjoyed the holidays.

If you are feeling sad in this holiday season there is hope to change this if you will do a few simple preventative actions before the holidays are upon us.

  • PLAN AHEAD  Instead of just letting the holiday happen to you plan ahead some things that you will enjoy doing on the holiday.  It may be getting outside, seeing a movie, having a great meal, going for a long walk.  Plan something with a group of people like going to a meet up.  You can find these through meet up.com and they literally have a meet up on everything from going to the movies, to learning to cook Italian to walking on the beach.  People at meet ups are usually very friendly because they too are looking to meet new friends.
  • MONITOR YOUR THOUGHTS You can learn to manage your mood by monitoring your thoughts.  Hers’s how to do that.  Ask your observing mind to remind you each time you think a limiting thought .  A limiting thought says ” I can’t have that or do that because…….  These limiting thoughts are distorted so we need to bust them as they come happen.  So catch these thoughts and say to that thought, “I know that you’re real(meaning they have a real effect on the body) but you’re not true.  Instead of trying to argue with these limiting thoughts just watch them go bye in your mind, saying to yourself There is a worry going bye.”  “There is a fear going bye” and just let them pass as clouds pass across the sky.  You will see that you can separate from this if you practice this.
  • EXERCISE  Exercise raises your mood so plan to spend 30 minutes to an hour a day during the holidays exercising.  Doing it outside will boost your mood even more.  Health experts say we should spend at least an hour a day outside to be healthy.  Plan a specific type of exercise at a specific time for yourself (first thing in the morning is best).  This will give you a feeling of accomplishment as well as an energy boost. Also Zumba and Laughing Yoga are excellent mood raisers.
  • BE GRATEFUL  By setting the intention every morning when you wake up to find one NEW thing during the day to be grateful for.  This helps your mind look for the good things in your day.  At night write down what the thing you are grateful for.  This trains your mind to be on the outlook for good things.  Also   after a few weeks of this you will have to be creative finding new things to appreciate.  This will enhance your awareness as well as your happiness.
  • PLAN SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO  If you have a trip or event ( maybe even seeing a movie you have wanted to see) to look forward to this can keep your mood up during any sad times during the holidays.
  • GIVE BACK Look for a way to give to people less fortunate than you.  Start with the internet and do research on this and you will find a way to give back.  It could be at a church, school or retirement home.  Be creative and see what you can come up with.
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Solution Focused Therapy, the fast track to change

Solution Focused Therapy Techniques


Solution Focused Therapy was developed in a therapy setting and widely used for therapy since the 1980’s.

In the last decade it has become popular for coaching, so we now have solution focused coaching .

It is unlike many traditional therapies in that it focuses purely on the desired situation or goal.

People and especially therapists have been trained to look for the problem and to analyze it to bring about a change or the desired goal.

Solution Focused Therapy Techniques


Solution Focused therapy will not allow much discussion of the problem and only looks at what will be happening when the desired situation is already happening (the goal) and what will the client be doing to bring about these changes.  Once the client can see or visualize clearly the desired situation, the therapist then asks the client,”what small step will you take this week to achieve this goal.  The client always knows what is needed to achieve the goal, but maybe not in a conscious way.  The solution focused therapist helps to draw out this information from a position of being a half step behind the client.  The client always has the “knowing” but needs the therapist to focus him on  the desired state or condition and break it down into small doable goals.  The client then commits to a goal (tiny step) that he will accomplish by the next session.

This works to get results, or the desired change because we tend to create more of what we focus on. As explained in the law of attraction writings, our state of mind and focus draw to us that which we are dwelling upon. This causes viscious cycles of downward spirals which keep people feeling stuck and helpless, focusing on and analyzing their problems.

This focus on problems is particularly harmful with couples because couples typically come into therapy focusing on what’s wrong with the other person.  In fact, the main motivation for couples coming into therapy is probably to try to get the other person to change.  Focusing on changing the partner causes power struggles and the partner often will dig in his heels and become even more intent on not changing, because after all he is” right”.

One of the principles of Solution Focused therapy is that change is always happening. In solution focused therapy we direct the client to look at when things are better and exceptions to the problem.  Clients are usually surprised when asked to focus on what’s working, that there are actually times when the problem is not present.  By looking at the problem free times the client can start to become aware of what he/she is doing differently.  Once they are looking for these behaviors in themselves, the very act of looking for those times causes the mind to focus on and strengthen the positive aspects.

Want to Make a Positive Change Now?

Try this strategy out for yourself.

  1. Think of a problem that you want to eliminate
  2. Focus on the success you want instead.  Ask yourself, “What do I want instead of the problem?  How will I know I have this and what will be different? What will I be doing different when I have achieved this success?”
  3. Look for what is a situation where success has already happened in the past.  What caused this success ?  What were you doing differently?  How were you able to do that?”
  4. What is one thing you did to cause this success in the past that you could carry forward and do again now? Commit to taking one small step this week and see what happens.
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CBT / Mindfulness

CBT / Mindfulness


The practice of Mindfulness: Can teach them to interrupt heir automatic precesses that are occurring and alter their response to become more of a reflection.

Do you think it is possible to change our brain from the inside? Is it possible that thought can rewire the brain? These are the questions that the Dalai Lama asked scientists a decade ago. He wanted to see how meditation affects the brain.

To find out, the Dali Lama lent his monks and Lamas to a study at the the neuroscience lab at the University of Wisconsin where 2 group of meditators were brain monitored and measured; one group of novice meditators and one group of very experienced meditators(monks). They were all meditating on compassion and loving kindness toward all human beings.

The findings were that both groups had positive changes in the brain, but the experienced meditators had much more dramatic brain changes. The greatest area that was activated and altered was the right insula and caudate, a network which underlies empathy and maternal love. The conclusion wa that mental training makes it easier for the brain to turn on circuits that hold compassion and empathy.

Now scientists are learning more about the neuroplasticity and how it relates to Mindfulness.

Neuroplasticity is the ability of the brain to change its structure and function in response to experience. There is now scientific proof of the effects of Mindfulness.

There has been a explosion in the popularity of mindfulness.

I teach various Mindfulness techniques which with practice can create a more centered and satisfying life through.

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New help for PTSD sufferers

A new research study shows that low does of the active ingredient in magic mushrooms repairs brain damage caused by trauma, giving new hope for PTSD sufferers.  In this study mice actually lost their fear and the fear response associated with it .

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The PTSD situation is so bad that 18 American veterans commit suicide every day.  The suicide rate for veterans is higher that the number of veterans that were killed in combat in the last 5 years.

Read the article here

 

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Stop your anxiety in 3 minutes

Relieve stress with this 3 MINUTE BREATHING EXERCISE


When you feel stressed or a low mood coming…this 3 minute breathing exercise will change your state and give you peace.

1. Sitting in a comfortable chair close your eyes.  Just watch your thoughts, feelings and sensations going by from 1 moment to the next, in your mind for 1 minute.

2. Let go of your mind and move your awareness to only focus on your breath in your stomach as the stomach rises with the inhale and falls with the exhale for 1 minute.

3. Expand your awareness so that you feel complete body as a whole, from the top of your head to the soles of the feet for 1 minute.

You will see how you will feel very different after you do this for 3 minutes.

This is effective in changing your mood and feelings through MINDFULNESS, which uses the process of befriending your feelings- not requiring anything to change, but simply encountering what is without the intention of resolving anything.

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If couples entered the divorce process remembering the qualities that drew them to their spouse in the beginning, the divorce would go much more smoothly.

It ‘s normal for people to change over time.  The best divorces happen beause people accept this fact. Instead of reacting to the initial feelings that people often have to divorce, I help people to see what they have evolved into and what the marriage has evolved into. Those are often very different things. With clarity that comes from talking with your spouse about the expectations you had for the marriage originally and what actually happened couples often can come up with a feeling or relief about the divorce instead of anger, fear, and loss.

Sure there is loss associated with divorce; loss of a life style, financial loss, even the loss of identity, but there is also the opportunity to embrace and develop the person you have become in the process.

It is my job to help women reclaim their identity and create their path to expressing who they are based on who they are today, and not who they were many years ago when they got married. I’m offering for a limited time only the opportunity for any woman in this situation the opportunity for a free coaching session. Just call or emal and put “Divorce” in the subject line of the email.

 

 

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Why wait for January to loose those final unwanted pounds permanently- the key is to change your mind about food

Why wait for January to loose those final unwanted pounds permanently.  What if you could gradually begin now to change your uncoscious attitudes toward food?  I’m not suggesting that you change your eating now because the first part of this amazing program is that you don’t deal with food at all in the beginning.  This is about changing your unconscious programming that controls not only your eating habits but all habits.

Habits by definition are unconscious so therefore they will only be changed by processes that work with the unconscious mind.

Most people who want to weigh less say that they are doing it too raise there self concept or feel better about themselves.

A more empowering idea is to change your feeling about how much control you have over your life and your habits and that will not only make you feel energized and inspired and ultimately happier and more fullfilled , but it will also make you release the unwanted weight as a by-product.

So I am forming a group for people ( including myself ) who want to release those same stubborn 5-15 or 20 pounds that they have been struggling with for many years…maybe their whole life.  This comprehensive program deals with craving reduction and  unconscious programming causing us to put on and keep unwanted pounds.

Do you know anyone who would be interested in a program like that?  If you do, please send them this blog post and stay tuned for more information on this program which will be presented in future blog posts here.

Relationship Success

Relationship Success Depends on our Unconscious Agreements

Unspoken agreements are the agreements that we do not speak, but they play out in our lives. They are agreements that we make with ourselves, another person, or group as a way to get love, attention, or to feel safe.

From the time that Kathy married Bob, she took the back seat in their interactions by trying to please him and not focusing on her needs or her growth. His needs were the priority for both of them. He was a successful accountant who worked very hard to move up in his accounting firm. She stayed at home because that was what he wanted her to do.

He never asked her what she wanted to do. When she would praise him or do things to enhance his career and his social standing in the community, he would show satisfaction with her. For the first eight years of their marriage, her purpose in life was to get his approval. The unspoken agreement was “I’ll be lesser than you and in exchange, you will love me”.

As time want on, Kathy became stronger and more aware of her own value as a person. She realized that she wanted a career for herself and enrolled in a PHD program in psychology.

This brought about a change in their relationship causing cracks in the bridge. A relationship is a bridge. Dr. Bruce Fisher, in his book “Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends,” compares a relationship to a bridge. The relationship is the horizontal part of the bridge that connects two people who are the foundations of the bridge at either end.

The foundations must be strong to support the bridge. If one of the foundations shifts or changes then the bridge develops cracks. If not dealt with, these cracks will result in the breakup of the relationship.

Change is always happening as long as we are alive. If you deny, or resist these changes the relationship will either become strained and lose the good feelings which were there in the beginning, or it will break apart.

Each person must work on his/her own personal growth to have a healthier relationship with self. He/she also needs to understand the needs of the partner. Then the couple must work out which needs they want to meet separately and which ones they want to work out with their partner. This is a main reason why people end relationships and is something that CAN be worked out.

If you don’t take responsibility of meeting some of your needs, you will end up blaming your partner for your unhappiness and failing to support your partner in their pursuits. It doesn’t have to end this way

The paradoxical fact of relationships is that we pair with people who express our opposite or complementary tendencies. For example, Kathy and Bob had a pattern of Giver/Taker as the way they related to each other. That worked well at first, but when Kathy shifted what she wanted, she broke the original agreement.

These agreements are not spoken and certainly are not conscious, but they are fastidiously acted out in the daily life of the couple. This shift in her foundation of the bridge caused irreparable cracks in their relationship and they divorced.

It doesn’t have to end this way, although this is what we see much of the time. If both people are willing to look at what they expect and the roles they have been cast in from childhood, they can grow and incorporate new ways of being, which give them more choices in life.

This willingness to look at oneself and embrace new information can and does lead the couple to a level of intimacy that never would have been imagined at the beginning of the relationship.