Do people really expect New Years Resolutions to stick anymore? Most of us probably have given up on the whole idea because it has fizzled so many times in the past. Do you think that real change is just too difficult to attempt?
Maybe the reason that most resolutions fail is because we have been given wrong information on how change happens.
Coaching people for 15 years I have seen some tips used which actually helped my clients keep their resolutions.
These are surprising because they are counter intuitive. They can also be applied to any changes you would like to make.
1.) Commit to a direction and not a specific thing.
Most advice tells you to be very specific and detailed writing your resolutions. The reason for a direction is that unless you are clairvoyant, you don’t actually have any idea whats going to happen in the future.
Try this experiment:
Think of a time you expected your future to look exactly like ______________? Go ahead and fill in the blank. So I ask you, “Did it turn out like you pictured it?”
So with a direction you allow for the creative wisdom of the universe to bring you amazing, wonderful events, people and situations that you could not even imagine in your wildest dreams.
2). Create your emotional state before you do anything.
Create your emotional state before you do anything. I am a firm believer in the principles of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). One of the main concepts of NLP is that “Everything comes from state” (feeling states). What that means is that whatever state you are in determines how you are going to do whatever you do.
This means that if you get yourself in a state of abundance and gratitude for your abundance(whatever that is at the moment) you will pull situations to you that contain all kinds of abundance, when you least expect it.
We all have so many blessings and focusing on them will bring more of the same.
More recent research in the field of science, especially epigenetics has validated further how important our emotional states are on our health and behavior.
We now know from the new field of epigenetics that our feeling states actually influence how our cells behave. Dr Bruce Lipton, a cellular biologist who taught at the University of Michigan Medical School and conducted pioneering studies with stem cells at Stanford University wrote The Biology of Belief. In this book and in his videos in he explains the science of Epigenetics. Epigenetics explains how our thoughts, feelings and beliefs and our very environment control our biology. This affects both our emotional and physical well being.